Wednesday, June 15, 2005
Inviting Crazy
Maybe everyone has done, or if you haven't you are lucky. But eventually someone has either dated someone crazy or has made a crazy friend. Here are a few tips on detecting crazy. The obvious--they are on anti psychotics or they call you either drunk/high frequently. When they call you they are either bemoaning their life, or in the case of the ex they are bemoaning why you aren't in their life OR how you were the last in their life that really cared or fit them. (Here is a tip you may want to evaluate your own crazy, if that is true, or you may want to just re evaluate what you were doing then change it and walk away from your crazy associates.)
And yes I said walk away. It is cruel, it is terrible but BACK AWAY FROM THE CRAZY. Because you cannot control crazy. Eventually crazy will do something really fucking crazy. Here are examples (redacted to protect the crazy). Once friend A realized friend X was crazy he cut off his friendship with friend X. A few nights later another friend looked out friend A's window and saw X just staring up into his window. Another example when the crazy female friend (why is it always a female) begins calling your home and or current girlfriend (and maybe even you at odd hours) because she just wants to know how you are doing (or at this point see above listed conversations cause I am not typing them out again). (Tip two-- girls are just like guys they don't want to just see how you are doing).
Anyway, unless you are a licensed therapist or social worker and the person is paying you (or you are getting paid) because you CANNOT control crazy. Crazy by its definition is uncontrollable. Eventually crazy will do something you don't expect and that is just drama you don't need. I mean maybe MAYBE if crazy has been your friend for yeeeeeaaaaaaars it is slightly worth it (if at one point they weren't crazy) but unless it has been years....shake crazy off, lay shit down because do you really want to be there (or do you want the ones you care about to be there) when crazy explodes?
p.s.
On a smaller note -- if you are giving your energy to crazy people in your life, people who deserve your energy won't get it properly. Example, if you spend time on the phone with crazy ex boyfriend (who is now just one of your good friends) and then your man comes home or your roommate needs to get something off their chest and you don't have the energy to just listen to them. That's not right. Give your energy to those who deserve it.
Maybe everyone has done, or if you haven't you are lucky. But eventually someone has either dated someone crazy or has made a crazy friend. Here are a few tips on detecting crazy. The obvious--they are on anti psychotics or they call you either drunk/high frequently. When they call you they are either bemoaning their life, or in the case of the ex they are bemoaning why you aren't in their life OR how you were the last in their life that really cared or fit them. (Here is a tip you may want to evaluate your own crazy, if that is true, or you may want to just re evaluate what you were doing then change it and walk away from your crazy associates.)
And yes I said walk away. It is cruel, it is terrible but BACK AWAY FROM THE CRAZY. Because you cannot control crazy. Eventually crazy will do something really fucking crazy. Here are examples (redacted to protect the crazy). Once friend A realized friend X was crazy he cut off his friendship with friend X. A few nights later another friend looked out friend A's window and saw X just staring up into his window. Another example when the crazy female friend (why is it always a female) begins calling your home and or current girlfriend (and maybe even you at odd hours) because she just wants to know how you are doing (or at this point see above listed conversations cause I am not typing them out again). (Tip two-- girls are just like guys they don't want to just see how you are doing).
Anyway, unless you are a licensed therapist or social worker and the person is paying you (or you are getting paid) because you CANNOT control crazy. Crazy by its definition is uncontrollable. Eventually crazy will do something you don't expect and that is just drama you don't need. I mean maybe MAYBE if crazy has been your friend for yeeeeeaaaaaaars it is slightly worth it (if at one point they weren't crazy) but unless it has been years....shake crazy off, lay shit down because do you really want to be there (or do you want the ones you care about to be there) when crazy explodes?
p.s.
On a smaller note -- if you are giving your energy to crazy people in your life, people who deserve your energy won't get it properly. Example, if you spend time on the phone with crazy ex boyfriend (who is now just one of your good friends) and then your man comes home or your roommate needs to get something off their chest and you don't have the energy to just listen to them. That's not right. Give your energy to those who deserve it.
Comments:
crazy knows its crazy but excuses its crazy away....if you are rationalizing too many of your actions to yourself you are probably that crazy friend.
then again...like calls to like so maybe YOUR crazy friends don't mind :->
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then again...like calls to like so maybe YOUR crazy friends don't mind :->
